The chapter takes for granted that our aim is to achieve Qurb of Allah for humanity at large and suggests that we should get our priorities right. We should work on ourselves, our family, and then our society. If we were to skip the step of working on the family it would be as if we are trying to build the tall building (society) on a weak foundation (family).
Unfortunately the families structure has degraded a great deal in our societies. We once use to live-in with the larger family. A house would have parents with 10 / 12 siblings and the boys from the family would live in the same house for quite some time. Recently the trend is to have few children and that too the moment they are married they move out into a separate house. Further more many are avoiding marriage all together (they find it difficult to commit one spouse). Yet others are finding it easier to live in friends from the same sex and work as a family unit. So it is safe to say that the institution that we once had as a family is now degraded a great deal.
This leads to a lot of issues in the society. The children that grow out of troubled families are known to have psychological instability, higher crime rates, difficulty in maintaining a relationship etc. The way I see it, family structure is a training ground for us wherein we learn to deal with people and how to lead / follow. The family is also the best solution for the husband and wife to fulfill their sexual desires, short of which they end up promiscuous.
Here are few things that could help you maintain a happy relationship as a son and later as a husband and a father iA.
“treat others the way you yourself would like to be treated”.
discuss things out before the mole turns into a mountain.
– do not take advantage
do not abuse the support from the family – give as much as you take or more than that.