cultural chameleons

Cultural chameleons

I read an interesting article on cultural chameleons. These are people who pray at home or the Masjid and then sneak out to a party or wear Hijaab around family and then turning into a fashion diva at school or a gathering. This is the reality about many Muslims- One person, two worlds and a desperate struggle to juggle them both. It has led to deterioration in the social values and the community suffers. Many grievous examples are seen such as teens running away from home, getting into drugs and much more – the worst of which is turning away totally from Islam, rejecting it completely.

To combat this we must first be aware of the reality and be knowledge of its causes.

Causes

The article enlists the following:

* Lack of strong Islamic foundation in the home

* Double standards of the parents

* Lack of personal understanding/ conviction of Islam and failure to build a personal relationship with Allah (SWT)

* General teen rebellion and lack of common

* Insecurity, the desire to want to “fit in” or be acceptable or in other words a lack of self esteem and fear of rejection. To avoid this the child’s self-esteem at home and let them know that they don’t need to seek approval from anyone except Allah (SWT). Complimenting and praising them will make them be confident in their faith and in themselves.

* Bad companions:  The Holy Prophet (Sallallaahu Alaihi wa Sallam) said: “The example of a good companion and a bad one is the bearer of musk and the worker on the bellows. A bearer of musk would give you some, you might buy some from him, or you might enjoy the fragrance of his musk. The worker on the bellows, on the other hand, might spoil your clothes with sparks from his bellows, or you get a bad smell from him.”(Hadith Al-Bukhari and Muslim)

* The “Adolescent” Myth: This mentality is one of “I’m young, let me have fun and then I’ll be religious when I’m older!” It’s an attitude of irresponsibility, immaturity and misunderstanding of Islam and the purpose of our lives. The Holy Prophet (sallallaahu Alaihi wa Sallam) said : “An intelligent person is the one who calls himself to account and and does deeds to benefit him after death and a foolish person is he who follows his desires and hopes from Allah (SWT).” (Hadith Tirmidhi)

We must constantly turn to Allah (SWT) in Du’a (prayer). Indeed, this is something that should be done at all times… it is a means of prevention, as well as part of the path to the cure.

Allah (SWT) Most Wise and Most Merciful says:  “No one despairs of Soothing Mercy from Allah except for those who are unbelievers” (Quran – 12:87)

Cultural chameleons

I read an interesting article on cultural chameleons. These are people who pray at home or the Masjid and then sneak out to a party or wear Hijaab around family and then turning into a fashion diva at school or a gathering. This is the reality about many Muslims- One person, two worlds and a desperate struggle to juggle them both. It has led to deterioration in the social values and the community suffers. Many grievous examples are seen such as teens running away from home, getting into drugs and much more – the worst of which is turning away totally from Islam, rejecting it completely.

To combat this we must first be aware of the reality and be knowledge of its causes.

Causes

The article enlists the following:

* Lack of strong Islamic foundation in the home

* Double standards of the parents

* Lack of personal understanding/ conviction of Islam and failure to build a personal relationship with Allah (SWT)

* General teen rebellion and lack of common

* Insecurity, the desire to want to “fit in” or be acceptable or in other words a lack of self esteem and fear of rejection. To avoid this the child’s self-esteem at home and let them know that they don’t need to seek approval from anyone except Allah (SWT). Complimenting and praising them will make them be confident in their faith and in themselves.

* Bad companions:  The Holy Prophet (Sallallaahu Alaihi wa Sallam) said: “The example of a good companion and a bad one is the bearer of musk and the worker on the bellows. A bearer of musk would give you some, you might buy some from him, or you might enjoy the fragrance of his musk. The worker on the bellows, on the other hand, might spoil your clothes with sparks from his bellows, or you get a bad smell from him.”(Hadith Al-Bukhari and Muslim)

* The “Adolescent” Myth: This mentality is one of “I’m young, let me have fun and then I’ll be religious when I’m older!” It’s an attitude of irresponsibility, immaturity and misunderstanding of Islam and the purpose of our lives. The Holy Prophet (sallallaahu Alaihi wa Sallam) said : “An intelligent person is the one who calls himself to account and and does deeds to benefit him after death and a foolish person is he who follows his desires and hopes from Allah (SWT).” (Hadith Tirmidhi)

We must constantly turn to Allah (SWT) in Du’a (prayer). Indeed, this is something that should be done at all times… it is a means of prevention, as well as part of the path to the cure.

Allah (SWT) Most Wise and Most Merciful says:  “No one despairs of Soothing Mercy from Allah except for those who are unbelievers” (Quran – 12:87)

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One response to “cultural chameleons

  1. Mashallah!!!!
    8)

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